War Baby

In the early 1990s when he was on the cusp of turning 50, Paul Dodds didn’t have a midlife crisis, he had a midlife surprise.Paul learned that the man he thought was his father wasn’t.Paul Dodds - Young Man“It kind of made sense because although he was always there, he never bothered with me or my brother (he wasn’t his father either),” said Paul, about his brother who is two years older.Although he’d never been very close to his dad, it never occurred to him that there might be a reason for that because as he said, “I never knew anything different.”But the revelation propelled Paul on a two-decade long search to find his biological father, a quest that only ended after 23andMe helped him find a half sister and his father’s name. Now he wants to tell people about it.“I would like to pass on the good things that have happened to me through 23andMe,” Paul said.His story starts in Wales just after the end of the Second World War. Although he didn’t know it Paul, it turns out, was one of tens of thousands so-called “War Babies,” the offspring of liaisons between American servicemen stationed overseas during the war.
The photo of the man Paul wrongly thought was his father.

The photo of the man Paul wrongly thought was his father.

After he was born, Paul’s mother married a sailor with the UK Merchant Navy named Len. But unbeknownst to Paul – or Paul’s older brother – Len couldn’t have children. The family lived in Cardiff. In 1968 Paul immigrated to Canada where his father had moved after leaving his mom.“He met me at the train and spent a day with me then that was about it, said Paul, who worked as a steel fabricator.More than 20 years later, doctors contacted Paul about his dad, who had died from a very rare cancer. The doctors wanted to know a little bit more about his father’s life and the family’s health history. As Paul scrambled to find out whether it ran in the family, he got a jolt when talking to one of his uncles in England.“I called my uncle in Newcastle, and when I started asking questions, he immediately said, ‘Paul, Len is not your father,’” he said. “That is how I found out.”So Paul started looking for the identity of his biological father. He also learned that he and his brother were really half siblings so he started searching for his brother’s father as well.“Part of the reason it became so important to find him is because it was deliberately hidden from me,” he said.His mother gave him false leads, at on point telling Paul that his father had died when the ship he was on sunk. At other times she was simply evasive. He wasn’t sure why, perhaps she didn’t know herself, Paul said.But there were two bits of information that his mother gave him that turned out to be true. His mom once told Paul he had “Jewish blood.” She’d also told Paul that his biological father had known his stepfather during the war, when his stepfather had been in the British merchant navy.But at the time none of that information helped Paul. Instead he spent years chasing down false leads, and that went on even after his mother died. Soon after she passed away, one of Paul’s daughter’s found an old photograph of a man in a U.S. Army uniform.Paul believed at the time that the man in the photo might have been his father, so he spent years figuring out the unit the man served with by looking at the insignias and ribbons on the uniform. He then tried to cross reference that with units stationed in the area at the time of his conception. Then he winnowed down names until he thought he had the right man. There had been writing on the back of the photo, which he had analyzed. But all of that painstaking work, which included searching military records in Britain and the United States, all came to naught.It wasn’t until last year that Paul finally got a break when he tested with 23andMe. First he got a DNA Relative match with a first cousin, who helped him track down a woman, who they believed was his half sister. She recently tested with 23andMe.Both Paul and his half-sister were ecstatic about finding the connection.Paul learned his father, Leon Rossien, had been a merchant marine who served on the USS Cristobal, a troop ship. Leon was in port around VE Day in May of 1945. Paul believes he may have been conceived during the celebrations around the end of the war.His sister filled him in on his father’s life. After the war, his biological father had been a jeweler. His father, who died in 1999 not long after Paul started looking for him, also liked to bet on horses and was married four times. Paul learned he had two other half-sisters, who passed away.“I’ve seen some photos of him and there’s some resemblances,” said Paul. “The same long chin and eyebrows.”He hasn’t yet met his half-sister in person, but they’ve spoken several times on the phone.“She’s excited by this,” he said.As for Paul he has felt a whole range of emotions.“All these things have fallen into place at last,” he said. “Good things are happening. Thank you 23 and me.”
  • Michelle A. Mead

    I am insulted that you refer to War Babies as the products of affairs. A War Baby is simply the child of an American serviceman/woman, and a foreign partner. This partner could be someone they are married to. I am a War Baby, a member of the World War II War Brides Association. And my parents were married before they had both my brother and me. Get you facts straight!

    • Terence Francis

      I sense some unresolved anger there, Michelle.

    • FuerElise

      You may not like it, but the facts are that the overwhelming majority of war babes were born as the result of a brief affair, often just a one-night-stand, to use a modern term. Why are you so “offended” by those facts?

  • Michelle A. Mead

    A war baby is the child of an American serviceman or servicewoman, and a foreign born partner. The child is not necessarily the result of a liaison, and many war babies are the results of marriages, like the one between my American service man father and my French war bridge mother.

    • Scott23H

      This is not a story about children from couples who married and had children during the war. There were many thousands – estimates range into the tens of thousands – of children born from relationships between American servicemen and women in Europe and elsewhere in which the father did not marry the mother and may not have even known they had a child. Those children, if they’ve learned of the relationship, are often left searching for their fathers or information about their fathers.

    • Terence

      It is not exclusive to American servicemen fathers. They could be from any nation e.g.Canadian, Australian, Polish, et al

  • Michelle A. Mead

    I have no issue with people trying to find missing fathers, who may have been servicemen during the war.Nor do I judge the foreign women who bore their children. As you can imagine, this also happened with soldiers of the German or Russian armies of occupation, as well as American and Canadian soldiers.. The word I object to is “liaison”, and I stand by that objection. In defining a war baby as the result of a “liaison”, you put people in a category into which they do not fit. At the upcoming World War II War Brides Association reunion in September, there are categories for War Brides and War Babies. And I can assure you, most of us War Babies are the result of marriages, not “liaisons”. I am not unaware of the plight of many grown children who are still seeking their fathers and extended families. A German friend of mine recently traced his American serviceman father, only to find out that he had recently passed away. I know his heartache and his issues. Some war babies were born from marriages, and some from “liaisons”. I hope that they were all conceived in love, which is how children should be created.

  • Guest

    I am very new to 23andme and this is the first time I’ve posted on any board – so I hope I’m not overstepping any boundaries here… I just had to jump in and comment. Firstly, a “war baby” can be a child born to a Canadian OR American soldier during WWII. Actually, there are “war baby” sites that include soldiers from Korea and Vietnam as well. But – that’s splitting hairs. So is the word “liaison.” My father had an “affair” (liaison, get-together, romp, friendship… describe as you will) when he was in the UK during WWII. He is now gone and his 5 children (of which I am the youngest) are trying to find our half-sibling. He left behind a wife and (then) 2 children in Canada when he was posted to the UK during the war. I don’t know whether or not he was in love with the person in the UK – or not. There is very little we DO know. But – through all of my research into this subject, the term “war babies” has been normally used to describe the babies left behind… (most often to women who were abandoned and they, in turn, sometimes gave those babies up for adoption) … the term is not normally used to describe babies who were born DURING the war years. At least not from what I have seen. It’s not intended (I don’t think) to be an insulting term. If the term “war babies” is also used as you have described, Michelle, then I understand that, however, I think Scott was trying to explain that the term is frequently used to describe those babies left behind.

    • Terence Francis

      Go to GITRACE.org – John Munro moderation/host. This is the original online-site that was a natural progression from the original War Babes Organization founded in Birmingham UK by Shirley McGlade, herself an WW11 American serviceman war babe – as am I. She recently passed. Her book, Daddy Where are You? is a popular one… So, join the site, and also learn how to get you DNA done from 23&me. Good luck & stay in touch.

  • missingtonysoprano

    Would give anything to find out who my bio father was. I’m now almost 65 and as time ticks away I’ve hit a dead end trying to find out about him. My mom was a virgin at 19, he was a cab driver and boom 9 months later I was born in 1949. Mom had NO information to share with me at all other than he had a brother who worked for the San Francisco Fire Dept. My maiden name is very very common so it’s been impossible to find him. I have no money for private investigators. I guess I will die never knowing what the other half of me was all about or where “that” part of me came from. It makes me quite sad.

  • Terence Francis

    ‘Paul’ is a fellow War Baby I met thru the GITRACE.org website. It turned out he is an Canadian immigrant form the UK just like me, and lives just five minutes away. Wonderful. We easily became fast friends – like falling of a log. He’s a great guy by anyone’s standards. Such a happy finding…

  • Lynda

    My dad Doug Scott serve https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5397121af6601f8b40b7200436f03523180e87291a668191ea4f1ae21aed5e39.jpg d in the occupation of Japan right after the war. My sister and I have had a feeling that we have a brother that my deceased father would have never known about. We have found pictures of our dad who was only 19 when he returned home with a young Japanese woman. She was an interpreter, and they went from house to house together teaching the Japanese people disease prevention. For several months. Perhaps a love story. Recently we have strong feelings that we have an older brother out there somewhere we need to find. I wonder how to go about finding him.